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Soul Mates
Last spring I took a social psychology course at my local
community college. An odd event caused me to think of a topic
we
discussed in that class. The topic was "soul mates" and if true love
actually existed. I recently
sat down with my girlfriend of 3 yrs
and watched a home videotape of her and her date getting ready to go
to
their senior prom. I watched my girlfriend laugh, joke etc. with
her date, pose for pictures, etc. I'm not going to
lie, a bit of
jealousy roused in my body... but a more interesting thought occurred
as I watched the past unfold.
I recalled my psych professor of last spring and how, in his mind
there was no "true love" or
"soul mates". To me at the time, this
was a very disheartening and pessimistic view. However, as I thought
about it, if soul mates really existed, then a majority of us would
be cheated out of true love. Your "soul
mate" could reside in China
or some other continent! Think how many times people marry, date,
etc. Was
each one of these relationships "true love"? I think of the
tape I watched and how I am just taking the place
of the boyfriend
in the past. Is there any sincerity to love or is it all just very
animalistic, as in picking
a mate and reproducing your genes? My
thoughts are stuck in a limbo of wanting to believe (which we all
do)
in a pure love and the animalistic view of species reproduction.
Love to hear your thoughts.
-Ryan-
Send mail to Ryan at:
alienorthodox@hotmail.com
-From Nicole-
I am currently in a philosophy and psychology class, and I have actually been pondering the same question that you were both
talking about. I believe that many times people get into a relationship and stay in it because they feel comfortable, or they
think that they have found the "right one." I believe that there are only rare cases of true love. Look at the statistics.
The divorce rate is at 50%. 50% of the people that thought that their "love" was a true love, and they were obviously
wrong. Also, I have thought about the whole thing on how it's basically about sex and support, and I think in MANY cases that
is what is going on, but I don't think that that is the case for all. Some people are so afraid that they will always be lonely
or whatever that they rush into a relationship and if they are comfortable they may proceed on to the "higher" part
of the relationship. I do know that love is not about what you can get from it, rather what you can give to the other. I think
this may play a part; maybe we are supposed to love others, but do we really "fall in love?" I guess it is different
for everyone. I don't think that everyone is blessed to find their "true love," because I think it would be too
easy, and maybe only some of us deserve to find our "true love." The ones that don't judge or that aren't materialistic
are much more likely to find their "soul mate." I know way too many people that are so freaking materialistic that
I don't think they will ever find real love and I don't really think they deserve it.
-Nicole-
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